"I would love to have a dog," I'd think. But an inevitable voice of doubt would shatter my musings. "Your apartment is too small for a dog," it said. "You don't have a good schedule for a dog," it admonished. "Just wait for the right time," it implored.
I relented. I held on tightly to my dream of finding an adventurous pup to be my partner, but whenever I let that dream creep towards action I chided myself for thinking rashly. The time was not right.
There were a few times I thought I saw the right time approaching, only to have life throw a wrench in my plans. I changed cities, I changed jobs and each change pushed me further from that idyllic "right time" when I would have a fenced yard and a schedule perfectly suited to raising a dog.
Frustrated, I decided to think about what I would do if a dog was dropped on my doorstep and I had to take care of him. I worked out a theoretical schedule where I could cover most day-to-day stuff and have a friend/family member/dog walker cover other times. The schedule called for some tight-squeezes and sacrifices on my part, but it was doable.
"Hey, it's doable!" I realized. But not everything that's doable should be done. It was certainly not the "right time" I patiently waited for. And I had to admit there were a few question marks about how I would make time to ensure my pup was always well cared for when I had to travel for work.
I thought long and hard about whether I was ready to take on the responsibility of having a pet. I was ready to make the necessary sacrifices, but my circumstances were not what I hoped for. I was just about to once again shelve my dream when a new realization struck.
If you wait, there will never be a right time. There will always be difficulties and challenges in life. The waves never stop rolling in. I realized the "right time" is not something you wait for, it is something you make for yourself when you're ready. I made the decision to make it the right time. I traded my daydream Eko for a real one and it was one of the best decisions of my life.